- Separation and Attachment PDF – Excerpt from PDF – Birth is certainly a wrenching, although absolutely necessary separation from the previous state of being. There is a moment in prenatal life when the child has already utilized all the possibilities of the womb. All that was so essential within the womb becomes absolutely useless outside. Birth is a great separation from all that was part of the previous environment, but if we look carefully at the situation, we can see that nature has planned birth in a way that facilitates the transition and favors its positive aspects. At birth, the relationship between mother and infant are both biological and psychological and is essential to both of them. Only this relationship can transform the separation of birth into a new attachment that reproduces the unity of life that has been the basic characteristics of pregnancy. The mother is eager to see, touch and hold the child in her arms and the child wants to be touched, held and accepted by its mother. In addition to their mutual desire to stay together, only the mother has the appropriate food, maternal milk it is the only food the infant can digest completely in the first months of life. The road to independence is both biological and psychological and as one helps the other we must never separate the two. Weaning is an important stage in advancing along this road. There is a time for everything, and the good use of each stage for education can help the child to develop much better. Finish the article by downloading the entire PDF: Separation and Attachment PDF
- Attachment/Detachment PDF – Excerpt from PDF– Attachment/Detachment Ms. Cindy Draper for Parent Ed Night 9/15/10 There is an amazing growth of independence in the first year of life. The child is in a crucial stage of building habits of mutual love and trust.As the child grows through different experiences of attachment and detachment it is important to understand the natural process the child must go through to define his new life. It is the evolution of life, a continuous process of attachment and detachment. There is a fine line between attachment and detachment.Then we have unnatural external attachments. Some of these items are usually not necessary and sometimes can even be detrimental to the child: Cribs, swings, playpens, walkers, bottles/sippy cups and sometimes food.These create insecurity and throw the child off balance. As they grow older they may be unable to validate themselves from within and they become dependent on what others say or behave toward them as an adult. We then allow others to govern how we see ourselves and make it extremely difficult to achieve any peace of mind and the freedom to be ourselves.On the other hand some children also experience extreme detachment. This is when the caretakers of the young child are unaware of the psychological needs of the child. When caretakers are unaware of these needs extreme detachment happens and the child may become overly detached and the ability to connect with others-physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, is seriously compromised, the child then grows without empathy or compassion.We often forget that this tiny, young child is a person developing their basic attitude towards the world. The child needs to be handled gently from birth on, to be talked to gently and to have peace surrounding child. This gives the child a sense that the child is cherished and the world is safe. Finish the article by downloading the entire PDF: Attachment by Ms. Cindy Draper
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